Suicide - How to approach someone you’re concerned about

You don’t give someone ideas by talking about suicide. The opposite is true: bringing up the subject of suicide and discussing it openly is one of the most helpful things you can do and this can be life-saving. 

APPROACH – Approach gently and with calmness, ask if you can help, letting them know what you have noticed about them that has concerned you. 

LISTEN – Listen actively, give your full attention, and be as empathic as you can.

ASK – Ask if they are having suicidal thoughts and if they answer yes, ask if they have thought how they would do it? Do they have a plan? This will indicate how intentional they are.

SUPPORT- Do not judge. Be as supportive as possible. Offer hope and help them to call the Samaritans 116 123, friend, family member, their GP or the local NHS mental health crisis team to get further assistance.

Be ready to call 999 or go to Accident & Emergency if the situation is serious and all else is failing. 

DON’T -  Don’t ask why; don’t act shocked; don’t lecture about the value of life; don’t be sworn to secrecy but always share someone’s thoughts of suicide with someone who knows how to get help.

Please seek help if you are experiencing any of these issues *

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