When it doesn't feel much like Christmas... try this

Most of us are disappointed by the recent announcement that plans to celebrate Christmas this year must change… yet again.

As a result, we’re all feeling a bit frustrated and unsteady - I certainly am! All the feels are making an appearance these days; disappointment, anger and sadness are all normal reactions and we’re likely to continue feeling this way for a little longer.

Below I've listed a handful of tricks to keep you well over the next couple weeks. Aim to give at least one or two a try, and remember... this too shall pass.

Shift your mindset.

We can’t change what’s happening around us right now, but you can change how you respond to it. The problem these days is we’ve lost the ability to make important decisions about our own life.

So the next time you’re faced with a problem or experiencing discomfort, ask yourself, “Is this a problem I can solve? Or do I need to change how I feel about the problem?” If it’s within your control, tackle the problem. If it’s out of your control, focus on changing your emotional state. Use healthy coping skills, like those listed below to deal with the uncomfortable emotions that get stirred up this season.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting things to go your way in life, but when they don’t, empower yourself to make the situation better by focusing on what you can improve instead of making yourself feel miserable.

Acknowledge your feelings.

If you can't be with loved ones this year, and all your plans have been cancelled, then recognise that it's normal to feel disappointment and grief. Allow yourself a good cry, break something that’s not valuable if you need to, go for an extra-hard run or take a bash at a pillow!You can't force yourself to be happy in a situation like this, so express yourself in a way that’s safe and allows you to vent.

Reach out.

Everyone is feeling let down this year. Connect with others, including colleagues, friends, family and neighbours. They can offer support and a sense of belonging, because we’re all in this together. Make sure you see people too, even if it’s virtual. It may not be exactly the same, but it will surely help. Try reaching out with a text, a call or a video chat.

Be patient with each other.

When we feel disappointed or stressed as a result of constant change, we’re more liable to take it out on the people around us. Explain to people “I’m acting this way because I’m upset.” When we set expectations with others, there is less likely to be an argument. Be sure to return the favour, and have patience with the people around you too.

Make time for yourself.

Spending just 15 minutes alone, without distractions, can help refresh you enough to handle everything on the to-do-list, this year and next. Find an activity you enjoy that reduces stress by clearing your mind, slowing your breathing and restoring inner calm. Try doing something with your hands like painting, writing, baking or cooking.

Help someone else.

We’re stronger together. Bear in mind the holidays are especially difficult for those who are alone. And by volunteering to help others, the feel-good feeling is multiplied. There are many ways you can do this, from offering to do a food shop for an elderly neighbour, to having a friendly chat. In times of uncertainty, kindness goes a long way.

Talk to someone.

Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself feeling continually sad or anxious, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless, and unable to meet your daily responsibilities. If these feelings last for too long, talk to your doctor or a mental health professional.